Personal growth is never easy, each has its time, yet our evolutionary path is not possible without a minimum degree of knowledge of the means of which it intends to rely, and, above all, a conscious and responsible acceptance of them.
But the human being is willing to grow?
Often we want to grow and simultaneously at an unconscious level, we oppose with all our strength to any attempt at transformation.
Old and powerful and often unconscious fears push us to manifest itself in a manner not corresponding to reality.
emerge in us so many false self, or sub-personalities. The person who hides behind a false self to action to truly replace the live "as if". He creates, as everyone does, its own balance, but that balance becomes a matter of "as if". In the life of an individual - who is also a person, or "mask," according to the 'Latin etymology - can in fact distinguish roughly two different ways of dealing with the experience, and that while in opposition to each other, intertwine frequently.
To be or not to be?
In very few words, you can call this c opioids requires bipolar as follows: the mode of "as if" and mode of 'authenticity .
mode "as if" is reflected in what is similar to the dream, the fantasy experience, to illusion. The "as if" with elegance and ease wearing the veil of Maya.
The "as if" is the realm of the ego that holds you, that looks only, which is outside the experience. The "as if" is identified only with the "as if" and makes us identify with the emotions, with thoughts, beliefs, with the illusion of being the same: it is deceit and sly self-congratulation. It follows that its highest expression is the negation of being as if.
mode authenticity manifests itself, however, the total identification with the lived reality ( being present here and now ), which, paradoxically, leads to a very high "risk" means the loss of self in his experience. This is going beyond the art of raccontarsela, you get in the game, is open to change, is the recognition of pain usually concealed ...
Only a strong ego, mature, consistent, and focused on the level of the heart could desire such a risk, because he lives the need for real events, and you do not submit from fear - a potential driving force, but more often a powerful inhibiting factor - to dissolve the experience and not to be there-most in the world. Only a spiritually evolved, or that I have done much work on yourself ' and experience that makes the acceptance of the authentic self can cope with the fear that otherwise it would push on the "safe" tower "as if" the kingdom of virtual.
presence, the being-the-world (the old) or identity (for contemporary) account enormous value to the ego, essential. Consequently, the presence of crisis or identity crisis represents the dark aspect of the coin: the panic.
E 'logical to assume that every clings with all his strength to identity certain, stable and lasting and to do that is the need to maintain a balance equally certain, stable and enduring the various and varied component parts.
false personality
Moreover, each gave us a life to become what it is, starting from a thousand models identificatory reference, to become special, original, unique. This is our greatest masterpiece, what we are most fond of: the "false personality", the "Mirror Reflection of the self", the "Character".
A balanced, though not authentic, or fruit defenses and a thousand compromises, it is crucial to the survival of human beings. Only with a certain degree of balance we can cope with many demands of everyday life, which we "impose" identical to remain firmly in spite of the constant content changes. Consequently, any attack on our personal balance will tend to be avoided or coped with all our strength.
If this mode of defense to maintain the equilibrium real, genuine, a person, we could certainly say that it shows a huge evolutionary value. But mostly it chains us to our Character, the rigidity, immobility
rigidity
What can happen when a person where such a defensive mode to protect an extremely hard non-equilibrium -authentic, approaches to an evolutionary path. It lies in a balance of the child "as if" on the way to an increasing crystallization, rather than an evolution.
can then take over a conflict: on one side a balance inauthentic (Of which there is no awareness of inauthenticity) tries to stay on the other the "need to grow" is configured as a constant impetus towards a more genuine balance. It is a force that leads to ethical and spiritual growth accelerating, the manifestation of its true essence.
The process of identifying leads every individual to give life to their innate human nature, as long as he's knowledge. The ego plays a key role in helping to make real the totality of his psyche, or self. But it is certainly an achievement slow and difficult.
fact, unrestricted flow of information that reached us from the right from birth as sensory perception is interpreted (by ' I) in a manner and form socially shared an extensive inventory with which we can move the world with rationality and consistency.
Our own sense of identity is an integral part of the inventory of the particular description of the world that we built.
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Yet, compared to the whole, our description of the world, as it may seem reasonably comprehensive, it is little thing. Every perception is unrelated to our rationality tells us, makes us even feel , many of us are still "outside", that is to be discovered.
The human psyche, as inherently rigid, carries within itself the possibility to expand, to realize development potential. But this happens is not easy. Often I can not recognize and accept the messages emanating from the depths of our unconscious and hidden from the outside world.
And just as often the ego is unwilling to challenge them to accept as part of himself even what is most repugnant. We are a whole, lest we forget! contact with one's self is precious object and scope, because intuitively we know that it would show our totality. But to reach total self means taking long road on which the meetings with our shadows can scare us at all times to make us give up. Really want to continue to grow can be seen as a struggle against their own fears hectic!
